Girl Code…is it played out?

There is so much that goes on in our world, it’s really easy to lose sight of what’s important.   Like all athletes and their families, me & Speedy have lived all over the country and I’ve met a lot of people but one thing about me is that i’m genuine. Not everyone is my bestie but if you’re my girl….you’re my girl! I chill at your house, you chill at mine, we shop together and even double date. I sincerely have your back because I would hope that you’d have mine. But sometimes being genuine can be my gift and my curse.

I’ve said it over and over again, there is an unspoken bond among us wives but what happens when you’re put in the middle of their drama??

I was gearing up to do an “Ask Meeka & Speedy” post when one question stuck out. “My bestfriend’s boyfriend is cheating, should I tell her?” This struck a cord with me on a personal level because I was in this position before. A few years ago I lost what I thought was a close friendship (apparantly not!) with one of the wives because I told her that her man was bringing another girl around. I remember the whole situation like it was yesterday, when she was out of town, he’d have this other chick at the games. When I first saw her I didn’t know what to think but I just ignored her. But when he had the audacity to bring her to a BBQ at my house one day, I was filled with so many different emotions all at once. I was hurt for my friend, pissed at the disrespect and angry that he put me & Speedy in the middle.

I confided in Speedy about what I was feeling and his response is still embedded in my brain…”Mind your business!” But how could I????? I considered his wife my friend and a true friend wouldn’t see this, not say anything and still smile in your face or atleast that was what I thought.

Needless to say, I told my friend and there were a lot of tears and hugs, she told her “Meeka said…blah blah”, he doesn’t like me now, she doesn’t  speak to me at all anymore and she is still with her man.  I didn’t tell her to break up her relationship. I told her as a friend, so she could know what was up. She could do what she wanted with the info but atleast I knew I was a good friend.  But damn was Speedy right (for a change)?